Social Networking Leads to "Frenemies" For Women
Author: Ayra Moore
Published: March 31, 2011 at 6:47 pm
So,you hear time and time again how “great” the social network is, right? Well, for some, it is.
A majority of women, however, have become quite disgusted with the “friends” they have collected on Facebook, finding them very bothersome at times.
According to an article posted on Networkworld.com, Eversave, a company dealing in coupons, recently conducted a survey centered on how social networking influences shopping and the use of deals. They got a lot more info than they expected apparently.
Woman, who still admit they communicate more frequently and readily thanks to social networking, are also complaining about their Facebook pals. The women are getting tired of seeing status updates from their newfound “frenemies” regarding personal complaints, praise for their children, grandchildren, political views and bragging about their lives in general.
The result, in my opinion, to these,very amusing, recent findings is simple: No matter what outlet women use to attempt to communicate, we will always find that the company of other women will grow annoying and tiresome if it lasts too long. What is the saying regarding “too much of a good thing”? It may very well do you harm. Women and their “frenemies” should take note.
Read more: http://technorati.com/lifestyle/article/social-networking-leads-to-frenemies-for/#ixzz1INa62MAn
MY THOUGHTS
What bothers me about Facebook is that you are 'friends' with people who are not really your friends. If you are, why would status updates about family annoy you? Why would you consider 'happy news' as 'bragging'? Why won't you want to know more about your 'friend' through their 'political views'?
My biggest question is - why are you on Facebook if things like these annoy you?
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WILL YOU BLAME SOCIAL NETWORKING?
blame social networking
By Loretta Park
Standard-Examiner Davis Bureau
Last updated
Saturday, January 22, 2011 - 8:26pm
http://www.standard.net/topics/schools/2011/01/22/school-fights-more-violent-some-blame-social-networking
School officials and police officers are concerned that fights in schools are becoming more aggressive and violent, and they believe e-mail, texts and social networking are at the root of that escalation.
Suzanne Buchanne, director of the at-risk population with Davis School District, said, "I'm seeing more assertive/aggressive behavior."
Although she could not pinpoint a specific reason why, Buchanne thinks e-mail, texts and social networking are playing a huge role.
In the past, when several students were mad at each other, they would go to class or go home and time would allow tempers and feelings to cool down, she said.
Now, students text and e-mail each other, as well as post remarks on social networking sites, such as Twitter, Facebook and MySpace, Buchanne said.
"Now, I've got all my buddies involved; and it's not just boys doing this either," she said.
Recently, an incident erupted at a Davis County high school in which social networking was believed to have played a role. A 19-year-old is still in an area hospital with a brain injury following the fight at Viewmont High School.
"He has a significant head injury," said Bountiful Police Chief Tom Ross.
Ross said the fight that landed Spencer Spilman in a hospital happened on Jan. 10 in the school's parking lot during school hours.
"Fights are not so shocking," Ross said. "But what is (shocking) is how quickly, in a short period of time, we had kids gathered in one place for a fight."
He blames social media and texting.
Students from Woods Cross and Bountiful high schools have been implicated in the fight.
News of fight
News that a fight would be taking place traveled in a matter of seconds, bringing students from neighboring cities to the parking lot, officials said. Police spent the next 48 hours, working overtime, investigating how many students were involved.
Three juveniles are facing aggravated assault charges, which in an adult court could be a second-degree felony. Also, at least six more students could be charged with misdemeanor offenses, such as disorderly conduct or fighting, Ross said.
But the aggressiveness and intensity of that fight, as well as another one earlier in January after a basketball game between Viewmont and Davis high schools, has officials concerned.
Consequences
Parents need to talk to their teenagers about the consequences of getting involved in fights, Buchanne said. It's not just bruises or black eyes, that will heal in a few days.
Instead, a student can find herself/himself without a school to attend, she said.
"They just don't think what the long-term consequences are," Buchanne said.
Students involved in fighting, as well as bringing weapons to a school, can be expelled for up to a year. If the incident is serious enough, the student could be expelled from every school in Davis School District, Buchanne said.
"And other districts can uphold that expulsion," Buchanne said. "I don't think people realize that. We don't have to offer them any services."
Principal Chris Keime at Fairfield Junior High School in Kaysville said students are taught at the beginning of the year how to deal with conflicts maturely and what the district's safe school policy is.
But social networks and electronics are making it difficult for students to deal with disagreements, he said.
"It's hard for kids, especially when their honor has been hurt," Keime said.
But at least statistically, kids might be getting the message.
Overall, fights or violent acts in schools are not increasing, but instead decreasing, not only in Davis School District, but statewide and nationally.
Decreases
According to a 2010 Bureau of Justice Statistics report, in 2003, 9.2 percent of ninth-grade to 12th-grade students, nationwide, reported being threatened or injured with a weapon on school property. In 2007, that percentage decreased to 7.8 and decreased again in 2009 to 7.7 percent.
In Utah, 7.3 percent of ninth-grade to 12th-grade students in 2003 reported being injured or threatened with a weapon on school property, according to the report. In 2007, that percentage increased to 11.4, but then dropped in 2009 to 7.7 percent.
Some of that decrease statistically could be attributed to the programs schools are putting in place.
Parents at North Layton Junior High volunteer to patrol the hallways during the lunch hour, which helps keep the peace, said Assistant Principal James Gordon.
Students are also told if there is a conflict or they feel afraid, they can find an adult -- a teacher or administrator -- who can help them get through the conflict.
Conflict resolution
Overall, most students are good kids; but several weeks ago friction between two North Layton students escalated due to social networking and texting, and there was a fight, he said.
Gordon said parents should teach their children how to resolve conflicts without using technology. One way is to use appropriate behavior when they disagree with someone else.
He said teenagers are very much aware of current events and see how adults handle disagreements.
"They can see there are very clear disagreements between Democrats and Republicans," Gordon said. "I agree with President (Barack) Obama that we should sit down at the table and talk about disagreements and what is the actual conflict."
Also, parents need to know what students are watching, not only on TV, but what they are seeing on the computer, what they are reading in books and who they are communicating with, Gordon said.
"I really feel technology is fast outpacing our students' judgement and they're dealing with adult issues," Gordon said.
Technology allows anyone, including teenagers, to hide behind a screen and become a different person, he said.
"What is written shocks not only the parents, but me," said Gordon, who has been an educator for 17 years.
MY THOUGHTS
i wonder if the same is happening here. and i really don't think we should blame social networking sites. we cannot stop the world from evolving. and we should not stop trying to cope with these changes called 'development'.
i know, it's a lot simpler for moms and dads and teachers when technology was not this advanced. you tell your kid he/she is grounded and that's it. nowadays, you tell them they are grounded and you confiscate the computer and the cellphone,too.
this is why strong values have to be inculcated. at home and in school. strong values that are not just taught but exemplified. values that will arm us and the kids against the evils of technology.
come to think of it, technology is not evil. we are the ones who make it so.
By Loretta Park
Standard-Examiner Davis Bureau
Last updated
Saturday, January 22, 2011 - 8:26pm
http://www.standard.net/topics/schools/2011/01/22/school-fights-more-violent-some-blame-social-networking
School officials and police officers are concerned that fights in schools are becoming more aggressive and violent, and they believe e-mail, texts and social networking are at the root of that escalation.
Suzanne Buchanne, director of the at-risk population with Davis School District, said, "I'm seeing more assertive/aggressive behavior."
Although she could not pinpoint a specific reason why, Buchanne thinks e-mail, texts and social networking are playing a huge role.
In the past, when several students were mad at each other, they would go to class or go home and time would allow tempers and feelings to cool down, she said.
Now, students text and e-mail each other, as well as post remarks on social networking sites, such as Twitter, Facebook and MySpace, Buchanne said.
"Now, I've got all my buddies involved; and it's not just boys doing this either," she said.
Recently, an incident erupted at a Davis County high school in which social networking was believed to have played a role. A 19-year-old is still in an area hospital with a brain injury following the fight at Viewmont High School.
"He has a significant head injury," said Bountiful Police Chief Tom Ross.
Ross said the fight that landed Spencer Spilman in a hospital happened on Jan. 10 in the school's parking lot during school hours.
"Fights are not so shocking," Ross said. "But what is (shocking) is how quickly, in a short period of time, we had kids gathered in one place for a fight."
He blames social media and texting.
Students from Woods Cross and Bountiful high schools have been implicated in the fight.
News of fight
News that a fight would be taking place traveled in a matter of seconds, bringing students from neighboring cities to the parking lot, officials said. Police spent the next 48 hours, working overtime, investigating how many students were involved.
Three juveniles are facing aggravated assault charges, which in an adult court could be a second-degree felony. Also, at least six more students could be charged with misdemeanor offenses, such as disorderly conduct or fighting, Ross said.
But the aggressiveness and intensity of that fight, as well as another one earlier in January after a basketball game between Viewmont and Davis high schools, has officials concerned.
Consequences
Parents need to talk to their teenagers about the consequences of getting involved in fights, Buchanne said. It's not just bruises or black eyes, that will heal in a few days.
Instead, a student can find herself/himself without a school to attend, she said.
"They just don't think what the long-term consequences are," Buchanne said.
Students involved in fighting, as well as bringing weapons to a school, can be expelled for up to a year. If the incident is serious enough, the student could be expelled from every school in Davis School District, Buchanne said.
"And other districts can uphold that expulsion," Buchanne said. "I don't think people realize that. We don't have to offer them any services."
Principal Chris Keime at Fairfield Junior High School in Kaysville said students are taught at the beginning of the year how to deal with conflicts maturely and what the district's safe school policy is.
But social networks and electronics are making it difficult for students to deal with disagreements, he said.
"It's hard for kids, especially when their honor has been hurt," Keime said.
But at least statistically, kids might be getting the message.
Overall, fights or violent acts in schools are not increasing, but instead decreasing, not only in Davis School District, but statewide and nationally.
Decreases
According to a 2010 Bureau of Justice Statistics report, in 2003, 9.2 percent of ninth-grade to 12th-grade students, nationwide, reported being threatened or injured with a weapon on school property. In 2007, that percentage decreased to 7.8 and decreased again in 2009 to 7.7 percent.
In Utah, 7.3 percent of ninth-grade to 12th-grade students in 2003 reported being injured or threatened with a weapon on school property, according to the report. In 2007, that percentage increased to 11.4, but then dropped in 2009 to 7.7 percent.
Some of that decrease statistically could be attributed to the programs schools are putting in place.
Parents at North Layton Junior High volunteer to patrol the hallways during the lunch hour, which helps keep the peace, said Assistant Principal James Gordon.
Students are also told if there is a conflict or they feel afraid, they can find an adult -- a teacher or administrator -- who can help them get through the conflict.
Conflict resolution
Overall, most students are good kids; but several weeks ago friction between two North Layton students escalated due to social networking and texting, and there was a fight, he said.
Gordon said parents should teach their children how to resolve conflicts without using technology. One way is to use appropriate behavior when they disagree with someone else.
He said teenagers are very much aware of current events and see how adults handle disagreements.
"They can see there are very clear disagreements between Democrats and Republicans," Gordon said. "I agree with President (Barack) Obama that we should sit down at the table and talk about disagreements and what is the actual conflict."
Also, parents need to know what students are watching, not only on TV, but what they are seeing on the computer, what they are reading in books and who they are communicating with, Gordon said.
"I really feel technology is fast outpacing our students' judgement and they're dealing with adult issues," Gordon said.
Technology allows anyone, including teenagers, to hide behind a screen and become a different person, he said.
"What is written shocks not only the parents, but me," said Gordon, who has been an educator for 17 years.
MY THOUGHTS
i wonder if the same is happening here. and i really don't think we should blame social networking sites. we cannot stop the world from evolving. and we should not stop trying to cope with these changes called 'development'.
i know, it's a lot simpler for moms and dads and teachers when technology was not this advanced. you tell your kid he/she is grounded and that's it. nowadays, you tell them they are grounded and you confiscate the computer and the cellphone,too.
this is why strong values have to be inculcated. at home and in school. strong values that are not just taught but exemplified. values that will arm us and the kids against the evils of technology.
come to think of it, technology is not evil. we are the ones who make it so.
Sunday, October 31, 2010
social nettworking : The Dos and Don’ts of Facebook Dating
The Dos and Don’ts of Facebook Dating
Logging on to find love? Here's how to make a successful connection through social networking
Kimberly Dawn Neumann ON Oct 25, 2010 at 2:56PM
The Dos and Don’ts of Facebook Dating
Tempted to troll Facebook for dates? Experts say you should keep a few key rules in mind. Here, former The Bachelor star Matt Grant (you know, the cute British guy with over 3000 FB friends) and dating guru David Wygant, author of Always Talk to Strangers, share seven cyber-dos and don’ts to help you secure your happy ending. We call it social date-working.
DO: Your Homework
Peruse your list of Facebook pals, then take a peek at their friend lists, suggests Wygant. Intrigued by someone you find there? Instead of shooting over a blind friend request, you can up your chances of a successful love connection by asking your mutual friend about that individual first. Just saying, "What do I have to do to get you to e-troduce us?” is usually enough to get the ball rolling. And don’t be afraid to pick the brain of your friend beforehand. He or she may be able to offer you some interesting tidbits about your new potential lover's personality and lifestyle, and that can help you decide if you’re truly compatible.
DO: Stand Out in the Crowd
Once your friend gives you the heads up, send your new love interest a light FB note like, “Hey, I’m Bill’s friend and I would love to chat if you’re game,” suggests Wygant. But don’t forget to include something of substance in this message, something to bond over. “For example, mention a comment they made on your shared friend’s profile, like, ‘We’re both in total agreement over the healthcare issue,’ or quote something you saw on their profile.” Search for common ground. “That way the initial connection becomes more about meaningful, shared interests -- not simple superficiality like ‘I saw your photo and think you’re hot,’” says Wygant.
DON’T: Come On Too Strong
“You would not believe how many women send me inappropriate photos of themselves via Facebook because of my appearance on The Bachelor,” says Grant, whose TV stint prompted an avalanche of FB friend requests. "It tells me they are likely only interested in appearances -- not a real relationship," he says.
DON’T: Dwell On Rejection
News stories of psychos on the Net can lead even the friendliest of people to throw up their iGuard. If you’re rejected, don’t ruminate, just move on. “People should be allowed to choose whether they accept or deny access without feeling guilty, and anyone on Facebook needs to understand that’s part of the process and not take it personally,” says Grant.
DO: Establish Boundaries
Though you may be tempted by popular apps that display your whereabouts -- Foursquare, anyone? -- when it comes to dating, discretion and privacy are at a premium. Don't advertise your location unless you are prepared to face the conquences, as in, “Why were you at a bar last night when you told me you had a headache and were staying at home?" Take the time to review your Facebook privacy settings, says Wygant. “Less information is always better, since more info can lead to misinterpretation,” he says. “Be as general as possible and only share a few personal tidbits.”
DON’T: Forget the Golden Rule
Be kind out there, and don’t let a snarky status update ruin your chances at love. Words travel fast online, and much like that game of Telephone, where one person whispers something to the next and so on and so forth until suddenly it’s twisted, an ugly word from you could get back to your date and really muck things up. “Let’s say you post that you had a horrible date. Now 300 people can read that update, and one of them could be best friends with the person you went out with, so you're basically publicly shaming somebody,” says Wygant. The bottom line: Speaking ill of others on FB is not an attractive trait.
DO: Give a Guy a Chance
You may prefer only to have Facebook friends whom you’ve met in person. If so, and a stranger reaches out to you, make sure you have a separate, nondescript email address on hand for them, Wygant suggests. That way you can politely write back and say something like, “I'm flattered you took the initiative to friend me, but I keep my Facebook page limited to people I’ve actually met in person, since I post personal information. But if you’d like to tell me a little more about yourself, feel free to email username@dot.com.” It’s a polite way to maintain your privacy, and keeps open the option of social date-working without giving the whole world access to your FB page.
MY THOUGHTS
by far,i have not really heard of anyone who's actually looking for FB dates. well, maybe my circle is past the "seeking" and "running after" games. the rules seem very sensible though.
Logging on to find love? Here's how to make a successful connection through social networking
Kimberly Dawn Neumann ON Oct 25, 2010 at 2:56PM
The Dos and Don’ts of Facebook Dating
Tempted to troll Facebook for dates? Experts say you should keep a few key rules in mind. Here, former The Bachelor star Matt Grant (you know, the cute British guy with over 3000 FB friends) and dating guru David Wygant, author of Always Talk to Strangers, share seven cyber-dos and don’ts to help you secure your happy ending. We call it social date-working.
DO: Your Homework
Peruse your list of Facebook pals, then take a peek at their friend lists, suggests Wygant. Intrigued by someone you find there? Instead of shooting over a blind friend request, you can up your chances of a successful love connection by asking your mutual friend about that individual first. Just saying, "What do I have to do to get you to e-troduce us?” is usually enough to get the ball rolling. And don’t be afraid to pick the brain of your friend beforehand. He or she may be able to offer you some interesting tidbits about your new potential lover's personality and lifestyle, and that can help you decide if you’re truly compatible.
DO: Stand Out in the Crowd
Once your friend gives you the heads up, send your new love interest a light FB note like, “Hey, I’m Bill’s friend and I would love to chat if you’re game,” suggests Wygant. But don’t forget to include something of substance in this message, something to bond over. “For example, mention a comment they made on your shared friend’s profile, like, ‘We’re both in total agreement over the healthcare issue,’ or quote something you saw on their profile.” Search for common ground. “That way the initial connection becomes more about meaningful, shared interests -- not simple superficiality like ‘I saw your photo and think you’re hot,’” says Wygant.
DON’T: Come On Too Strong
“You would not believe how many women send me inappropriate photos of themselves via Facebook because of my appearance on The Bachelor,” says Grant, whose TV stint prompted an avalanche of FB friend requests. "It tells me they are likely only interested in appearances -- not a real relationship," he says.
DON’T: Dwell On Rejection
News stories of psychos on the Net can lead even the friendliest of people to throw up their iGuard. If you’re rejected, don’t ruminate, just move on. “People should be allowed to choose whether they accept or deny access without feeling guilty, and anyone on Facebook needs to understand that’s part of the process and not take it personally,” says Grant.
DO: Establish Boundaries
Though you may be tempted by popular apps that display your whereabouts -- Foursquare, anyone? -- when it comes to dating, discretion and privacy are at a premium. Don't advertise your location unless you are prepared to face the conquences, as in, “Why were you at a bar last night when you told me you had a headache and were staying at home?" Take the time to review your Facebook privacy settings, says Wygant. “Less information is always better, since more info can lead to misinterpretation,” he says. “Be as general as possible and only share a few personal tidbits.”
DON’T: Forget the Golden Rule
Be kind out there, and don’t let a snarky status update ruin your chances at love. Words travel fast online, and much like that game of Telephone, where one person whispers something to the next and so on and so forth until suddenly it’s twisted, an ugly word from you could get back to your date and really muck things up. “Let’s say you post that you had a horrible date. Now 300 people can read that update, and one of them could be best friends with the person you went out with, so you're basically publicly shaming somebody,” says Wygant. The bottom line: Speaking ill of others on FB is not an attractive trait.
DO: Give a Guy a Chance
You may prefer only to have Facebook friends whom you’ve met in person. If so, and a stranger reaches out to you, make sure you have a separate, nondescript email address on hand for them, Wygant suggests. That way you can politely write back and say something like, “I'm flattered you took the initiative to friend me, but I keep my Facebook page limited to people I’ve actually met in person, since I post personal information. But if you’d like to tell me a little more about yourself, feel free to email username@dot.com.” It’s a polite way to maintain your privacy, and keeps open the option of social date-working without giving the whole world access to your FB page.
MY THOUGHTS
by far,i have not really heard of anyone who's actually looking for FB dates. well, maybe my circle is past the "seeking" and "running after" games. the rules seem very sensible though.
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